| Summary
I made unexpected Afghanistan friends during my journey through Kabul and Bamiyan. Does Afghanistan have friends? Absolutely – from drinking tea with Taliban soldiers to being welcomed by locals at the giant flag monument, friendship in Afghanistan style is warm and genuine. I experience incredible hospitality at Bande Amir, share sweets with armed soldiers, and discover that Afghanistan friends challenge every stereotype about this misunderstood country. |
THE PAKGHAN SERIES, DAY 20 – 23
KABUL – BAMIYAN – KABUL
Making friends with the Taliban. First things first, on our way to Bamiyan, and that’s a shave.
PROBABLY SHOULDN’T BE SAYING THIS BUT I CAN’T WAIT FOR HOME
I do enjoy getting a street shave every so often just for the experience. Probably risking it all, but sure!
Moments like these often spark conversations with locals and fellow travellers, which made me think about the idea of Afghanistan friends and how unexpected cultural encounters can shape your perspective of the country.
WHERE IS BAMIYAN?
Bamiyan
If someone were to ask me what the worst thing about Afghanistan is, without question, it has to be the traffic, driving, and the roads. You don’t actually need a driving licence to drive here, and it really shows. Everyone drives like a woman! Joking, ladies, it’s actually quite ironic as women aren’t allowed to drive!
DAILY INFO….
- HOTEL – Gohgola, Bamiyan 7.5/10
- LANDMARK – Kabul 7/10
- ATTRACTIONS –
Scream City
Buddhas
Women’s Market
Bande Amir
Chicken Street
Kabul Flag
CITY OF SCREAMS
Once we arrived at Bamiyan, we stopped off at the City of Screams. A place where Genghis Khan did his usual shenanigans, killed all the men, raped the women, that sort of stuff. It was said the screams of the locals were heard throughout the region, and it has been called the City of Screams ever since.
Making friends with the Taliban
BUDDHAS OF BAMIYAN
One of Afghanistan’s most important landmarks and tragic stories is the Buddha’s of Bamiyan. Carved out of the sandstone cliff almost 1,400 years ago, these were part of the Buddhist movement that began all the way in India.
Eventually, in 2001, the founder and leader of the Taliban, Mullah Omar, demanded they be destroyed, and within a few days, 1,400 years of history were gone. Six months later, the US Military would invade Afghanistan, and the war on terror would begin.
Making friends with the Taliban
WOMAN’S MARKET
No matter who you ask, you always get a different answer on the topic of women’s rights. But there is no dispute that it is far from ideal. However, Bamiyan is known as the liberal capital of Afghanistan. There isn’t much competition in that realm, but it does have a women-only bazaar, where all shops and stalls are owned and operated by women.
Indirectly, this market is responsible for employing hundreds of women, whether in the shop or making the products. It’s refreshing to hear this, but still Afghanistan has a long way to go.
Making friends with the Taliban
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DAY 21, BANDE AMIR
This morning we headed to one of the best landscapes in the world, Bande Amir National Park. I have no doubt that if this were in America or Europe, it would be teeming with tourists and likely be surrounded by KFCs and McDonald’s. Thankfully, it’s not, and during both times I have visited, I have been the only tourist here.
Everything from the rock formations, snow-capped mountains, and colour of the water makes this place entirely unique.
Making friends with the Taliban
FACTS ABOUT KABUL:
- Kabul has seen several power shifts over the years, most notably the rapid takeover by the Taliban in 2021 after the withdrawal of U.S. forces, marking the end of a 20-year conflict led by NATO and the U.S.
- The war has had devastating consequences for civilians. Thousands have lost their lives, with families facing displacement, restricted access to basic necessities, and a significant impact on women’s rights.
- Afghanistan, especially areas around Kabul, has historically been one of the world’s largest opium producers. Conflict has fueled this economy as both the Taliban and other groups have relied on drug trafficking to fund their activities.
KABUL
It was another 6-hour journey back to Kabul for a quick bite in my favourite restaurant in Afghanistan.
DAY 22, KABUL
Our last day of the trip, and if I am completely honest, I’ve been running on fumes for the past week. Trips of this length and intensity take their toll, and I usually spend the next while on autopilot. Going forward, unless I am somewhere where I can chill for a few days, trips will have to be 2 weeks max.
PERMITS
Permits are a big part of travelling through Afghanistan, and we experienced the bureaucracy first-hand today. We were heading to a park about an hour from the centre of Kabul. It ended up a waste of time anyway, but in no time, we had the Taliban approach us and ask for papers and to wait for their commander. Turns out the commander wasn’t happy with the permit we had, as he was convinced it didn’t cover this area, even though it’s Kabul, and our permit covers Kabul.
He then asked to see my phone, and I had to endure another stint of someone going through my photos. If you want to feel paranoid, then let the Taliban go through your phone! I don’t know what was being said between my guide and the Taliban, but eventually I said let’s go and turned and walked off.
AFGHANISTAN FRIENDS: HOLDING HANDS WITH THE TALIBAN
Back in Kabul, I took a wander through the market to see what we could find, and within no time, I had a Taliban soldier came up to me with a beaming smile. He demanded I have some tea, and we sat down for an hour drinking and talking about a lot of things I have wanted to ask the Taliban. It’s incredible how friendly someone holding an M4 can be, as he bought me an unlimited amount of sweets!
This experience perfectly answers the question “Does Afghanistan have friends?” The answer is absolutely yes. Despite the complex political situation, Afghan-style friendship Afghanistan style is warm, genuine, and hospitable.
My Afghanistan friends – from local shopkeepers to Taliban soldiers – showed me incredible kindness and openness that challenged every preconception.
KABUL FLAG
No trip to Kabul is complete without a trip to the huge flag. This is where lots of locals come to meet friends and socialise after a long day at work. It is by far the best place to meet people and make Afghanistan friends. I was asked to recite the Shahada again, and even though I tried to decline as I first wanted to learn it properly before committing to saying it in public, they responded with, “We will help you.”
How could you say no to that? But I nailed it, and then they wanted me to go again! Got to love these people. This is what friendship in Afghanistan is all about – strangers becoming friends over tea and conversation.
9/11 CARPETS
To end the day, we headed back to Chicken Street as I wanted a special memento. This street is famous for gems and, believe it or not, carpets, but not any old carpets. Hidden away in some first-floor room is an interesting choice of 9/11 carpets designed in memory of Afghanistan’s recent past. The carpets are nothing you would expect, everything from AK47s, Hummers, and of course, the two planes hitting the twin towers.
FINAL THOUGHTS
Finally, that’s another series done, and if I’m honest, I’m beat. I’ve been beat for the last 10 days, so I can’t wait to get home and get back into a routine again.
So does Afghanistan have friends? Without a doubt, yes. The friendship Afghanistan offers is unlike anywhere else I’ve traveled. My Afghanistan friends – from Taliban soldiers sharing tea to locals helping me recite prayers at the flag monument – showed me a side of the country you’ll never see on the news.
The warmth, hospitality, and genuine human connection I experienced here challenged every preconception and reminded me why I travel.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
What is friendship in Afghanistan like with locals?
Friendship, Afghanistan style, is characterized by incredible hospitality, warmth, and generosity. Locals will invite you for tea, share sweets, help you recite prayers, and spend hours talking with you. My Afghanistan friends included shopkeepers, guides, Taliban soldiers, and random people at monuments.
Can you make friends in Afghanistan as a Western tourist?
Yes! Making Afghanistan friends is surprisingly easy. The best places to meet locals and experience friendship in Afghanistan include the Kabul flag monument (where locals socialize after work), markets like Chicken Street, tea houses, and cultural sites like Bande Amir.
Is it safe to interact with Taliban soldiers in Afghanistan?
During my experience, I found Taliban soldiers surprisingly friendly. One soldier insisted I have tea with him, and we spent an hour talking while he bought me sweets.
How do Afghans show friendship to visitors?
Afghans show friendship through tea sharing (a daily ritual), offering sweets and food, helping you learn cultural practices (like reciting the Shahada), spending time in conversation, and going out of their way to assist tourists.
SAFE TRAVELS, DS x
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